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Vol. 3, No.48, Monday, February 25th, 2013

TITLE: “PHEROMONES IN HUMANS: For men, women,  scents, attraction, sex, I reveal the secret!*”

INTRODUCTION

You’ve heard the expression, “There is no chemistry between us.” Well, there is a scientific explanation. You see, there is something called pheromones – these are the “chemical signal (such as an odor) that is emitted by one animal and affects the behavior of others. Pheromones are used by many animal species to attract mates.” It is thought to be one of the signals, which a woman sends to a man indicating interest. If looking for love, wouldn’t it be a good idea to learn about this? It might help to get the deal done! Thus, my book for the week is “Secrets of Sex Pheromones-Do They Really Attract Sex?” [Kindle Edition] Dale Ovenstone (Author) (Editor’s Note: This is part of a continuing series on relationships, romance, dating and marriage.)

ANTOINETTE’S LIFE & TIMES*

Adolescence: As a teenager, I remember hearing that musk oil was the best scent, leading you to the opposite sex. This fragrance was used by men and women alike.

Young woman: My friends often spoke of having chemistry with someone. 

 Middle aged: A colleague at work believed that in a sea of people, there might be one person, to whom, you will be drawn.  According to her, pheromones are responsible for leading you to your mate.  Apparently, these odorless molecules are believed to be the natural scent of attraction. Pheromone-based perfumes are now available.

Likes: Apparently vanilla-based perfumes are a natural aphrodisiac.  Since vanilla extracts can be very expensive, many vanilla fragrances are diluted.  The smell can be very powerful but pleasant and lingering.  The scent of vanilla is very appealing to me.  Any toiletry available in vanilla scent is the one I will purchase.  The scent pulls me like a magnet. 

Research

From my research, I learnt:

• That pheromones are odorless molecules. Aphrodisiacs arise in part from pheromones associated with underarm secretions. Indeed, some researchers believe that there is a connection between physical attraction and body odor.
• That for the most part, scientists are skeptical – many do not believe in the human pheromones phenomenon. However, it’s interesting that pheromone-based fragrances have piqued the curiosity of consumers. Researcher took notice.
• That women living together could develop the same menstrual cycles. This interesting observation lends some support to the pheromones phenomenon.

THE AUTHOR:  Dale Ovenstone

Dale Ovenstone is an independent professional. His industry is E-Learning. He is from Cardiff, United Kingdom.

SERIES/COLLECTION

Books/Articles:  

Several are:

• David’s Fingernail by Dale J Ovenstone (Nov 30 2012)
• Sarah ‘Expect the Unexpected’ by Dale J. Ovenstone (Mar 24 2012)
• Secrets of Sex Pheromones-Do They Really Attract Sex? by Dale Ovenstone (Jan 24 2012)
• Do it yourself ultimate cornice crown moulded ceiling feature by Dale Ovenstone (Feb 22 2012)
• If You Don’t Trust Your Lover-Here’s What To Do Instead. by Dale Ovenstone (Mar 2 2012)
• The Healthy Penis Guide, The Prostate: The Penis: The Mind: Eradicating Erectile Dysfunction by Dale Ovenstone (Apr 19 2012)
• When something is on Your Mind-Bothering Your Emotions You Cannot Switch Off by Dale Ovenstone (Jun 15 2012)
• Why Innocent Men Lie-The Manipulative Mind of a Woman by Dale Ovenstone (Aug 5 2012)
• Plaster Your Patch by Dale Ovenstone (Aug 25 2012
• ‘Nifty Tricks ‘n’ Tips of a Professional Texture Practitioner’ by Dale Ovenstone (Aug 26 2012)
• The Here & Now, Fall Asleep Technique-Using the Power of Your Mind by Dale Ovenstone (Sep 11 2012)
• The Sexy Plastering Job-Paid In Kind by Dale J Ovenstone (Aug 13 2012)

THE BOOK: Secrets of Sex Pheromones-Do They Really Attract Sex?” [Kindle Edition] by Dale Ovenstone (Author)

Here’s a question: “Do sex pheromones-REALLY attract the opposite sex?” In a word, Ovenstone says: “Yes.” It has been said that this book will give you “the full lowdown on pheromones, their purposes, their uses and more importantly, how, why and if they really work.” Ovenstone argues that his theory is fully supported. He says that has unbiased tried and true information.

Psst you wanna know a secret … there is such a thing as pheromones. Supposedly, they are sent on a subconscious level. It is said that one can radiate outwardly sexual confidence and power. They exist in nature. If so, they have a use and a purpose. If animals have it, why not humans? But if you know it is there, can you control it?  I don’t know. But I suppose you can tweek your scent so others will feel your very ‘attracting’ presence.   

He promises a practical step-by step guide. I say: “What if he’s right … then what?”If you want to attract a partner, reach for this book. You know it’s up-to-date, it’s in the E-book format.  

CONCLUSION

Love can make you crazy. A possible reason is the attraction that pulls you to a certain person.  The attraction could be strong. It’s something difficult to explain- it’s just there. Pheromones may be part of the explanation. They are one of the signals of attraction between females and males. Animals do it, why not humans?

Personal Comments

I say:

• That I know a young woman. And there was a very handsome young man, who showed interest. But she didn’t.  The question is “Why?” According to her, the answer is: “chemistry”. It’s all about the spark between two people. 
• That chemistry alone is not enough. If the attraction is purely physical, then over time, the rush of adrenaline will wear off.
• That when the chemistry is strong, either the woman or the man might fail to see flaws in the other.  While nobody’s perfect, a serious flaw will probably ultimately destroy a relationship. Afterwards, you’ll see him or her with crystal clear glasses.
• For me, love is blind. You may think you’re in love. But years later, you might realize that you weren’t in love – you were only infatuated with the person. If you ask: “What is the difference between love (and lust) and infatuation?” My answer is: “Love lasts, infatuation doesn’t.” In order to have a successful relationship, it’s important to like your mate! 

The Point

Pheromones may give you an edge in the search for love. I say take it. Who knows? It may work! 

ANTOINETTE’S TIP SHEET*

1. Learn about pheromones – you know –  knowledge is power.
2. Try pheromones-based fragrances.

For me, pheromones make a lot of sense. But this is one instance when it’s good not to have common scents!

And that’s my thought of the week on books, what’s yours?*
Take it out for a spin and tell me if you agree.
ALP
“Books are life; and they make life better!*”

.S. Wowee …Wowee Shop Valente is finally open; and my new line of Antoinerte La Posta* brand of clothing is now available. There is still much more to come to the Save and Read* web site. Watch for it!

P.P.S. #1 I have a TWITTER page. Consider becoming a follower? Visit www.twitter.com –   saveandread
P.P.S. #2 I also have a FACEBOOK page. Consider becoming a friend? Visit: www.facebook.com – Alp Save Andread – please check it out.
P.P.S. #3 I am on Linkedin. Consider becoming a connection? Visit  www.linkedin.com – Antoinette La Posta

CREDITS

-Web Tech:  richmediasound.com

The above is a new media production of Valente under its “United Author*” program.
*TM/© 2013 Practitioners’ Press Inc. – All Rights Reserved.
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NEED SOMETHING FURTHER? TRY SAVE AND READ* (S&R*) .

ONE – “I SHOULD HAVE SAID THAT!*” – QUOTES
S & R* QUOTE #1: Confucius

“Can we help requiring much of those we love? Can we help instructing those toward whom we would be loyal.”

TWO – “IT WORDS FOR ME!*”
For today, my word/phrase(s) are: “sex pheromone”

“Sex pheremones are pheromones released by an organism to attract an individual of the opposite sex, get them to mate with them, or some other function closely related with sexual reproduction.” (Source: Wikipedia the free encyclopedia) – http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sex_pheromone

MORE FACTS

“A pheromone (from Greek φέρω phero “to bear” and hormone, from Greek ὁρμή “impetus”) is a secreted or excreted chemical factor that triggers a social response in members of the same species. Pheromones are chemicals capable of acting outside the body of the secreting individual to impact the behavior of the receiving individual.^[1]

Pheromones are chemicals capable of acting outside the body of the secreting individual to impact the behavior of the receiving individual.^[1] There are alarm pheromones, food trail pheromones, sex pheromones, and many others that affect behavior or physiology.

The term “pheromone” was introduced by Peter Karlson and Martin Lüscher in 1959, based on the Greek word pherein (to transport) and hormone (to stimulate). They are also sometimes classified as ecto-hormones.

In animals, sex pheromones indicate the availability of the female for breeding. Male animals may also emit pheromones that convey information about their species and genotype.

While humans are highly dependent upon visual cues, when in close proximity smells also play a big role in sociosexual behaviors. There is an inherent difficulty in studying human pheromones because of the need for cleanliness and odorlessness in human participants.^[19] The focus of the experiments on human pheromones has been on three classes of putative pheromones: axillary steroids, vaginal aliphatic acids, and stimulators of the vomeronasal organ.” (Source: Wikipedia the free encyclopedia) – http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pheromone)

THREE– STUDY/STATISTICS

THREE– STUDY/STATISTICS:

Products Lines for Toilet preparation manufacturing
Product code	Product description	Value of shipments of this line ($000)	Percent of industry value (%)
325620	Toilet preparation manufacturing	35,296,939	100.00
325620G4	Other cosmetics and toilet preparations	12,219,104	34.62
325620D3	Creams, lotions and oils, excluding shaving, hair, and deodorant	7,387,939	20.93
32562071	Hair preparations (including shampoos)	4,318,778	12.24
32562072	Hair tonics, including hair and scalp conditioners	3,624,240	10.27
32562043	Perfumes, toilet waters, and colognes	3,243,710	9.19
325620A2	Dentifrices, mouthwashes, gargles, and rinses	1,817,099	5.15
32562012	All shaving preparations	565,285	1.60
	-Other	2,120,784	6.01

(Source: www.census.gov/econ/industry/products/p325620html)

FOUR – BONUS ARTICLES

S & R*NEWS ALERT*#1: Keep an eye on those trendy specs

“Photo Caption: Jeanne Beker models a frame from the FYSH UK by Jeanne Beker Signature Collection alongside WestGroupe’s Beverly Suliteanu, VP Product Development

While eyewear serves as an indispensable vision tool for many of us, those with perfect vision are also opting to include glasses in their daily wardrobes. Whether wearing specs in order to see, or to be seen, eyewear has evolved into a popular means of expressing a personal sense of self and style.

WestGroupe, – a Canadian leading eyewear manufacturer and distributor, caters to the growing demand for fashionable frames.

This year is brimming with modern touches, colour and contrast, says Beverly Suliteanu, the vice president of product development for WestGroupe,. The company’s latest collection for FYSH UK, in collaboration with style icon, Jeanne Beker, speaks to eyewear’s dominance on the fashion circuit. More information is available on Fyshuk.com

There’s an emphasis, Suliteanu continued, on diversity in terms of shape and design, offering an assortment of frames for every type of face.

Suliteanu’s eclectic style sense is illustrated by her latest collection for FYSH UK, an urban cool women’s eyewear brand. This line appeals to women seeking to express themselves through their wardrobe choices.

With more than 25 years of elite fashion experience, Beker brings a tried and tested recipe of style and expertise to the design table. Each model in the collection is infused with distinct style elements like temple detailing, modern materials, bold shape and colour.

If you’re looking to make a fashion statement without going too wild, this collection will certainly resonate with you, Beker advises. Reserved edge is what the brand stands for, the way I see it.

When you’re out shopping for your next new pair of frames, Suliteanu recommends trying on more than one model before making your decision. Consider how they make you feel and pay specific attention to your level of comfort. Nothing looks more stylish on a spectacled woman than confidence.

Here is a sneak peek at the top eyewear trends for women.

Shapes:

Round

Modified cat-eye

Square

Retro-inspired

Colours:

Blues

Pinks

Purples

Spicy orange and red tones

Nudes and cosmetic hues

Translucent

Crystal/clear

Milky hues

Tortoise (classic and colored)

Two-tones/colour-blocking

Details:

Multi colored acetate

Brow bar detailing/embellishment

Mixed materials

Leather and faux leather detailing

Thick plastics

Sculpted temples

www.newscanada.com

S & R*NEWS ALERT*#2: Paint colours can help improve your mood By Katherine Arundel

“Image: Bright Yellow Kitchen

It’s well established that there is a direct correlation between colour and psychology. Certain colours can make us feel relaxed, energized and can promote creativity, while other hues may invoke anxiety and stress. It’s important to consider the psychological impacts of a colour when selecting the right paint for every room in your home.

The psychology behind colour selection and how people approach colour is often reflective of the surrounding environment. External factors such as a challenged economy or a long, grey winter can result in people looking to bring bright colours into their wardrobe or decorating choices.

Purple is also known to be extremely versatile. Depending on the tone it can be electric or soothing, so it’s always a good idea to test the wall you’re painting before taking that bold step, explains Para Paints colour specialist Janine May. Colour is a very personal experience and at the end of the day it’s you who gets to live in the space, so have fun and take risks!

A bright yellow colour like Para’s Star Glo (PF35) promotes optimism and positive thinking and is often a top colour pick for kitchens or as an accent colour against a neutral shade. The colour red or hot pink, such as Para’s Jazzleberry Jam (PF16) from their 2013 Colour Forecast Palette, is a powerful colour associated with high energy and creativity. Many experts caution that reds are best used sparingly – as an accent wall or as accessories. Light purples, such as the mauve of Para’s Orchid Mist (PF5) or the lilac tones of Wisteria (PF4) are calming hues that settle the nerves and would be a great shade to use in a home office or nursery.” www.newscanada.com

*TM/© 2013 Practitioners’ Press Inc. – All Rights Reserved.

Vol. 3, No.47, Monday, February 18, 2013

 TITLE: “MATCHMAKER FOR WOMEN WANTING MARRIAGE / AGENCY TO HIRE: I play Cupid, why don’t you?*”

INTRODUCTION

Matchmakers are everywhere. Many of us play Cupid and make introductions. But, others don’t. Today then, I will consider the question that has perplexed women since the time of Eve. Once she was with Adam, and before the apple biting incident, should she or should she not, play Cupid and fix up her unmarried girl friend or work mate with one of Adam’s single buddies? What happens if he turns out to be a jerk? Or worse still, What happens if it works out and they get married and in the end, he turns out to be an abuser?

 While Valentine’s Day may have come and gone, romance and relationships are still on the minds of singles. Indeed, it’s always the season for Love. I think that we should talk.  

My book of the week is Cupid’s Poisoned Arrow: From Habit to Harmony in Sexual Relationships [Paperback] by Marnia Robinson (Author), Douglas Wile Ph.D. (Foreword) (Editor’s Note: This is part of a continuing series on relationships, romance, dating and marriage.)

ANTOINETTE’S LIFE & TIMES*

My mother: She was a matchmaker, but her record was not perfect. In one case, she arranged for a single friend of hers to meet a woman she knew. It worked. He was so grateful that he bought my Mom a beautiful dress. In another instance, she brought two people together; although they were married, the marriage was not successful. My mother had regrets.

Me, myself and I: In my single days, I attended events hosted by a certain fellow along with his female partner. They started out as matchmakers for their friends and it snowballed into a business. At first, they arranged a dinner party at a restaurant so single friends could meet each other. At the end of the evening, people asked about the next event. This is how the business got started and it’s still very successful.   

When I was a member of my singles group, a few girlfriends tried to fix me up. In each instance, I went to meet the men. However, I found that they weren’t for me and it did not go any further.

 I also have tried to play Cupid. In one instance, there were two lovely people in my workplace. One was a single young woman of Italian descent newly hired. I knew of a young man working in a different department. He was 10 years older, never been married also of Italian descent. I was in touch with one of his friends and I arranged for the two to meet. We all went to a restaurant, but they didn’t say anything to each other. The young woman immediately told me that she was interested, but the young man never called her. He also never called me. We both thought that he did not like her. Soon after, she left getting a job with another company. About a year later, I had a chance meeting with the young man. I asked why he did not like her. He answered: “That’s not true … I liked her very much.” I asked:  “Why didn’t you make a move?” He said “It’s the story of my life.” It was so sad. I then realized that he was timid – he was waiting for me to make the move.    Although she was interested, he was too shy to do anything about it.  I realized that I should have taken it to the next level.

THE AUTHOR: Marnia Robinson 

Marnia Robinson, a corporate lawyer, chose the bed room over the board room. Robinson and her husband, Gary Wilson, investigated how sacred-sex prescriptions of the ancients could heal widespread disharmony in intimate relationships.  They have given presentations on the subject. They operate a Web site called “Reuniting Healing with Sexual Relationships.

SERIES/COLLECTION

Books/Articles:

Several are:

• Cupid’s Poisoned Arrow: From Habit to Harmony in Sexual Relationships Paperback: $12.89 Kindle Edition: $8.88, June 23, 2009
• Peace Between the Sheets: Healing with Sexual Relationships , November 17, 2003
• Das Gift an Amors Pfeil: Von der Gewohnheit zum Gleichgewicht in sexueller Beziehungen by Marnia Robinson

 THE BOOK: Cupid’s Poisoned Arrow: From Habit to Harmony in Sexual Relationships [Paperback] Marnia Robinson (Author), Douglas Wile Ph.D. (Foreword)

You’ve seen the image of Cupid, a bow in hand, with an arrow shot. According to the legend, if it lands on target and pierces the right spot of the brain, it brings on feelings of intense love. But, it’s an accepted fact that new love tends to wane. The novelty might wear off and boredom might set in. And day–to-day friction might also kick in. This is why some people look elsewhere. The authors debunk assumptions about sex and love. They see the key in the approach to sexuality. They think that the detachment biological trap can be overcome through lovemaking. It’s about achieving balance by finding harmony naturally. To explain their remedy, the authors draw from insights from people from all over the world, personal experiences and the latest neuroscience.

CONCLUSION

Most of us who are single, unattached really, want to change their status. Many want to be in a committed relationship. But, it’s easier said than done.

Personal Comments

I say:

• That matchmaking is the oldest method in the world to get couples together.  It’s been done in most cultures. 
• That statistically, most couples in Canada meet through family and friends.  See the stats in page #2 below.
• That many singles are tired of going on dating sites. Unfortunately there are so many profiles and many are deceitful. 
• That matchmaking seems to be on the rise.
• That first, I’m a strong believer, if someone wants to introduce you to a potential mate, go for it!  You never know!  Chances are that the matchmaker knows both people and thinks that it might work out.  
• That people who refuse to make introductions have excuses: They might say:  “Don’t bother … why get involved”.  I don’t agree.  Doing nothing when you can is a missed opportunity.  Or they might say: “It might backfire and then I will feel responsible.” Fair enough, but you’re doing the introduction, if they take it to another level, it’s their call. They might even say: “The person may not be what he or she seems.” True, that’s why it’s important to know both people well in order to eliminate introducing a bad person.  
• That if there is a chance that I could introduce a potential mate to someone, I will do it.
• That If you act as a matchmaker for friends or acquaintances, you are doing a good deed.    

The Point

What happens if I said that you hold the power to make the connection by which two people will find the love of their lives? Hearing this, a person should ask: “What do I do first?” Lucky for you, I have the answer below! 

ANTOINETTE’S TIP SHEET*

1.      Find out what your friends are looking for;

2.      Ask: “What if I said that there is somebody out there who is especially for you? And he or she is waiting for you? And he or she is the one for you, do you want to meet him or her?”

3.      Screen both people well before the introduction;

4.      Get up-to-date pictures and do the exchange beforehand;

5.      Have an event for your single friends who are interested in meeting someone;

6.      Explain you’re just doing the introduction;

7.      Take a risk;

8.      Take some advice. I believe  

a.       That a fella who is a ‘fixer upper’ is NOT a good candidate. 

b.      That a gal who wants their man might need to resort to a little ‘push and shove’. You see a guy sometimes needs some help.  

The song lyric says: “Matchmaker matchmaker make me a match.” There is a need. We can and should play Cupid. Don’t look for excuses. Just do it! Who knows? You might then be the subject of a toast at the wedding!

And that’s my thought of the week on books, what’s yours?*
Take it out for a spin and tell me if you agree.
ALP
“Books are life; and they make life better!*”

PREVIEW (tentatively scheduled for Monday, Feb. 25^th2013): You’ve heard the expression, “There is no chemistry between us.” Well, there is a scientific explanation. You see, there are pheromones – they are the “chemical signal (such as an odor) that is emitted by one animal and affects the behavior of others. Pheromones are used by many animal species to attract mates.” It’s one of the signals, which a woman sends to a man indicating interest. If looking for love, wouldn’t it be a good idea to learn about this? It might help to get the deal done! (Editor’s Note: This is part of a continuing series on relationships, romance, dating and marriage.)

P.S. Wowee …Wowee Shop Valente is finally open; and my new line of Antoinerte La Posta* brand of clothing is now available. There is still much more to come to the Save and Read* web site. Watch for it!

P.P.S. #1 I have a TWITTER page. Consider becoming a follower? Visit www.twitter.com –   saveandread
P.P.S. #2 I also have a FACEBOOK page. Consider becoming a friend? Visit: www.facebook.com – Alp Save Andread – please check it out.
P.P.S. #3 I am on Linkedin. Consider becoming a connection? Visit  www.linkedin.com – Antoinette La Posta

CREDITS

-Web Tech:  richmediasound.com

The above is a new media production of Valente under its “United Author*” program.
*TM/© 2013 Practitioners’ Press Inc. – All Rights Reserved.
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NEED SOMETHING FURTHER? TRY SAVE AND READ* (S&R*)

ONE – “I SHOULD HAVE SAID THAT!*” – QUOTES
S & R* QUOTE #1: Audrey Hepburn  

“For beautiful eyes, look for the good in others; for beautiful lips, speak only words of kindness; and for poise, walk with the knowledge that you are never alone.” (Source: Wisdom Quote) www.brainyquote.com/quotes/topic/topic_wisdom.html)

 S & R* QUOTE #2: Nelson Mandela

“A good head and a good heart are always a formidable combination.” (Source: Wisdom Quote) – www.brainyquote.com/quotes/quotes/n/nelsonmand 

 S & R* QUOTE #3: Vince Lombardi

“Winners never quit and quitters never win. “  (Source: Wisdom Quote) – www.brainyquote.com/quotes/quotes/v/vincelomb 

 TWO – “IT WORDS FOR ME!*”
For today, my word/phrase(s) are: “Cupid”; “Matchmaker”; etc.

Cupid

“In classical mythology, Cupid (Latin Cupido, meaning “desire”) is the god of desire, erotic love, and affection. He is often portrayed as the son of the love goddess Venus, and is known in Latin also as Amor (“Love”). His Greek counterpart is Eros.” (Source: Wikipedia the free encyclopedia) – http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cupid)

Matchmaker

“Matchmaking is the process of matching two people together, usually for the purpose of marriage, but the word is also used in the context of sporting events, such as boxing, and in business.” (Source: Wikipedia the free encyclopedia)  http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Matchmaking

TWO-A BONUS FACTS

“The Roman Cupido was a god who embodied desire, but he had no temples or religious practices independent of other Roman deities such as Venus, whom he often accompanies as a side figure in cult statues.^[16

In the Greek tradition, Eros was one of the primordial gods, though in some myths he was the offspring of other deities, including Aphrodite and Ares. In Latin literature, Cupid is usually treated as the son of Venus without reference to a father. Seneca says that Vulcan, as the husband of Venus, is the father of Cupid.^[3]

In the later classical tradition, however, Cupid is most often regarded as the son of Venus and Mars, whose love affair represented an allegory of Love and War.^[4]

The story of Eros and Psyche appears in Greek art as early as the 4th century BC, but the most extended literary source of the tale is the Latin novel The Golden Ass, also known as Metamorphoses, by Apuleius (2nd century AD). Often presented as an allegory of love overcoming death, the myth was a frequent image on Roman sarcophagi.^[30]

Cupid’s mother Venus became jealous of the princess Psyche (a Greek word for “soul”), and ordered Cupid to make Psyche fall in love with the vilest thing in the world. While Cupid was sneaking into her room to shoot Psyche with a golden arrow, he saw how beautiful she was and pricked himself with his own arrow, thereby falling deeply in love with her.

Cupid visited Psyche every night while she slept. Speaking to her so that she could not see him, he told her to never try to see him. Psyche, though, incited by her two older sisters who told her Cupid was a monster, tried to look at him and angered Cupid. When he left, she looked all over the known world for him until at last Aphrodite told her that she would help her find Cupid if she did the tasks presented to her by Venus. Psyche agreed. Psyche completed every task presented to her, each one harder than the last. Finally, Venus had one task left – Psyche had to give the ruler of the underworld a box containing something she was not to look at. Psyche’s curiosity got the best of her and she looked in the box. Hidden within it was eternal sleep placed there by Venus. Cupid was no longer angered by Psyche and brought her from her sleep. Psyche then received the gift of immortality so that she could be with him. Together they had a daughter, Voluptas (Greek Hedone), “Pleasure.” (Source: Wikipedia the free encyclopedia) – http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cupid 

 THREE– STUDY/STATISTICS:

Where do couples meet?

7% on line

8% school

8% bar

14% … work

24% family & friends

(Source: Canada AM Ffeb 14th 2013)  

FOUR – BONUS ARTICLES

S & R*NEWS ALERT*#1: Is your Valentine also your money match?

“Are you in a new relationship? If you’re getting serious, it’s time to have the money talk.

Relationships need love and trust, but they also need financial teamwork, says Perry Quinton, the vice president of marketing for the Investor Education Fund. Even if you have different money habits, you can make your differences work for you.

For example, one person may be a saver while the other likes to spend. Or you may have different comfort levels with investment risk. It can work to put one person in charge of tasks they’re better at, but open communication is key, says Quinton.

Here are four tips to make your finances work as a couple:

Bare it all – financially. Figure out where you stand as a couple. Look at everything you own and owe, from bank balances to credit card statements. This may feel awkward or difficult, but it can help you avoid problems down the road.

Decide how you’ll manage your day-to-day finances. Will you have a joint account or keep it separate? How will you handle your monthly bills?

Set goals and make a plan to achieve them. Whether your priorities are to get debt-free or to buy your first home, you’ll need to agree on a plan to get there.

Talk it out regularly. Have a regular money meeting to trouble-shoot any issues and help you keep your plans on track.” www.newscanada.com 

S & R*NEWS ALERT*#2: How to find your one and only

“We all want to find the person we are meant to be with. That special someone we are totally enamoured by, connected to, and head-over-heels in love with. Just in time for a fresh start this Valentine’s Day, here are some pearls of wisdom that may help bring you and your beloved together:

Believe in your soul mate and be patient 

Fate doesn’t work on a schedule. Your soul mate might cross your path when you’re eight or 80 years old. If you can believe in love even when life doesn’t seem to be taking you in that direction you’re already halfway there.

Make yourself a better person 

Next, begin the process of self-improvement. Be the type of person people fall in love with. If you think you need a better job or education, go back to school. If you want to improve your health, go to the gym and get in shape. If you want to expand your horizons, then begin to volunteer or get involved with a non-profit organization like Christian Children’s Fund of Canada (www.ccfcanada.ca) and see how improving the lives of people living in poverty can help bring new perspective into your own life.

Don’t hate being single 

Honour the state of not yet having a mate. Enjoy your life, go out with friends, and pursue paths of self-improvement. Spend time fine-tuning skills, nurturing interests, and having adventures. Study, take courses, and do things that help you grow personally, spiritually, and professionally. Live fully and stay open. Love may not be far behind.

How will I know when I do find my soul mate? 

Your soul mate will be a person you will feel a very strong and passionate connection with, as well as an old connection. In other words, you will feel as if you have known the person for a long time, even though you may have just met him or her recently. Even in moments of doubt and fear, open your arms to love. Know that every step you take in the direction of love will bring your true love closer to you.” www.newscanada.com

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Vol. 3,  No. 46,  Wednesday February 13^th 2013

 CUCINA D’ANTONIETTA*

(Antonietta’s Kitchen*)

“the art of food, wine, family & more*”

By Antonietta La Posta

 TITLE: “FONDUE: ideas, set, party, recipes – here’s one for chocolate & fruit* TIMES*”

INTRODUCTION

I love chocolate, no matter how it’s served.  Fruit covered with chocolate is a healthy dish, don’t you agree?  With Valentine’s Day fast approaching, this is a romantic dish to serve, especially for a party for two!   (Editor’s Note: This is part of a continuing series on kitchen, recipes.)

SAVORY INGREDIENTS PLUS*

1. Semi-sweet chocolate
2. Butter
3. Sweetened condensed milk
4. Water
5. Vanilla extract
6. Ceylon cinnamon
7. Fruits:

• Strawberries are the erotic fruit
• Pineapple slices
• Melon slices:
  • Honey dew -I call it the Honey-do-it or
  • Cantaloupe

1. Crackers

• Whole wheat – they’re healthy
• Multi grain – they’re healthy

Why I prefer Lactantia Olivina brand 1.9 lb. 850g

I prefer Lactantia Olivina brand because its label says that it’s non hydrogenated, low in saturated fatty acids, trans fat free, source of omega -3 polyunsaturates, cholesterol free, plus it has extra light flavoured olive oil. It also tastes good.

Why I prefer Surfin brand pure vanilla extract 56 ml.

I like that its ingredients are water, alcohol, vanilla bean extractives. It also tastes good.

HANDY APPLIANCES, UTENSILS, GADGETS, ETC.*

To make and serve fondue, you need

• Saucepan
• Serving platter
• Fondue pot in which small pieces of food are desigend to be dipped into chocolate, cheese, etc. (Source: Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia) –

Why I prefer Cast Iron Fondue Set, $39.95 – Crate&Barrel

To give you a specific reference, I have checked on-line and I found information on this Cast Iron Fondue Set– Product –BergHOFF Neo 12-Piece Cast Iron Fondue Set price $39.95, Style # Y4489. (http://www.lampsplus.com/products/BergHOFF-Neo12-Piece-Cast-Iron-Fondue-Set_Y4489.html)

Antonietta’s Recipe of the Month –

SPECIFICATIONS – Ingredients:

• 1 cup semi-sweet chocolate
• 2 tablespoons butter
• 1 (14 oz.) sweetened condensed milk
• 2 tablespoons Water
• 1 teaspoon Vanilla extract
• 1 tablespoon Ceylon cinnamon

DIRECTIONS

1. Place 1 cup of semi-sweet chocolate in a saucepan;
2. Add 2 tablespoons of butter;
3. Add (14 oz.) sweetened condensed milk;
4. Add 2 tablespoons of  water;
5. Add 1 tablespoon of cinnamon;
6. Heat on stove-top burner at medium heat;
7. Stir maximum 5 minutes;
8. Remove from stove;
9. Add vanilla extract;

10.  Light Fondue pot; and

11.  Serve with fruit & crackers on platter.

LAST BITE*

Today, I’m suggesting a dessert in two courses. I’m describing the first above. As to the second, I’ll leave it to your imagination.

Take this dish out for a spin and tell me if you agree.

And that’s my food favorite for the week, what’s yours? *

ALP

PREVIEW (tentatively scheduled for Monday, February18th 2013): Now that it’s the season for Love, I will consider the question that has perplexed women since the time of Eve. Once she was with Adam, and before the apple biting incident, should she or should she not, play Cupid and fix up her unmarried girl friend or work mate with one of Adam’s single buddies? What happens if he turns out to be a jerk? Or worse still, What happens if it works out and they get married and in the end, he turns out to be an abuser?  I think that we should talk. You know where to find me next Monday – here in this space. (Editor’s Note: This is part of a continuing series on relationships, romance, dating and marriage.)

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Vol.3,  No. 45,  Tuesday, February 12^th 2013

CUCINA D’ANTONIETTA*

(Antonietta’s Kitchen*)

“the art of food, wine, family & more*”

By Antonietta La Posta

TITLE: I SERVE A MARTINI: Extra dry  1)Vodka; 2) Gin* 

ANTOINETTE’S LIFE & TIMES*

The few times I’ve had martinis I’ve enjoyed them immensely.  At a wedding I attended they had a martini bar and it was very popular.  They had all types of martinis … take your pick. 

SAVORY INGREDIENTS PLUS*

Vodka

Vodka is distilled from quality grains. It is a clear colorless spirit with no distinguishing aroma … or flavour to mask the taste of fruit juice or mixers. (Source: “Seagram’s The Spirit of Hospitality, YOUR GUIDE TO SUCCESSFUL ENTERTAINING,” Joseph E. Seagram & Sons, Limited, Toronto, Canada, 1973)

Why I prefer Smirnoff Premium Triple Distilled Vodka 1.14L, 40% alc.

I prefer it because it has a rich, smooth texture. I understand that it’s ten times filtered.

 Gin

 A distilled spirit made by the re-distillation of grain spirits flavoured with juniper berries and a variety of other flavourings called botanicals. This type of gin is called London Dry Gin. (Source: “Seagram’s The Spirit of Hospitality, YOUR GUIDE TO SUCCESSFUL ENTERTAINING,” Joseph E. Seagram & Sons, Limited, Toronto, Canada, 1973)

 Why I prefer Beefeater London Dry Gin 1.14L, 40% alc.

 Practice makes perfect – it’s a top brand, long-time produced. The statement on the label says it all: “Distilled and bottled since 1820, it is based on James Burrough’s original 19^th century recipe.”

Vermouth

An aperitif wine, but one that today is most often used in the mixing of cocktails. Italian Vermouth is a dark red, sweet, wine which is often used as a mixer- it is also consumed by itself or poured over ice with a twist of lemon added. (Source: “Seagram’s The Spirit of Hospitality, YOUR GUIDE TO SUCCESSFUL ENTERTAINING,” Joseph E. Seagram & Sons, Limited, Toronto, Canada, 1973)

Why I prefer Martini Dry Sec Vermouth 1L, 18% alc.

It’s a leading Italian world class brand. I grew up with it. I have always enjoyed it.

 Olives

“The olive  meaning “Oil from/of Europe”) is a species of small tree in the family Oleaceae, native to the coastal areas of the eastern Mediterranean Basin as well as northern Iraq, and northern Iran at the south of the Caspian Sea.

 (Source: Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia) – http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki//olive

Why I prefer Stuffed Olives

Stuffed olives add to the martini experience. It contributes a flavor but also absorbs the liquid to give an added sensation. I usually buy a bottle at the grocery store, but I am now considering stuffing my own. Some alternatives are: jalapeno, Gorgonzola cheese, garlic, anchovy, etc. Can’t you just taste it?

Lemon

 “The lemon (Citrus × limon) is a small evergreen tree native to Asia, and the tree’s ellipsoidal yellow fruit.” (Source: Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia) – http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lemon

 HANDY APPLIANCES, UTENSILS, GADGETS, ETC.*

 To make martinis, you need

• Cocktail glass – 3-4 ½ oz Broad LV or bell shape with a stem
• Jigger
• Cocktail (glass or metal) cocktail shaker with the detachable top and screw top spout
• Cutting board
• Sword martini picks

Why I prefer Cocktail glass (3-4 ½ oz Broad LV or bell shape with a stem)

I use a Cocktail glass – 3-4 ½ oz Broad LV or bell shape with a stem, because this is used for most stirred or shaken cocktails. It also looks so good!

 Antonietta’s Recipe of the Month –

 SPECIFICATIONS – Ingredients:

• Vodka or Gin
• Vermouth
• Lemon
• Olives

DIRECTIONS

1. Prepare several martini sword picks – three olives on each
2. Chill 2 cocktail glasses – two are more fun
3. Add 2 jiggers (2 parts) of Gin or Vodka 
4. Add 1 jigger (1 part) of extra dry Vermouth
5. Mix well with cocktail shaker
6. Place a martini sword pick in each glass
7. Serve with a zest of lemon … Garnish with lemon peel

 LAST BITE*

 One drinks the liquid, tastes the lemon, but if you dare, you can bite an olive or two!

Salute mia amore! a la dolce vita

Enjoy this mixed drink and tell me if you agree.

And that’s my food/beverage favorite for the week, what’s yours? *

ALP

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Vol. 3, No. 44, Monday, February 11^th, 2013

TITLE: “VALENTINE’S DAY: SPENDING IT ALONE (OR NOT) – I HAVE THOUGHTS & IDEAS: gifts, cards, flowers, etc.*” – UPDATE 2013

INTRODUCTION

Valentine’s Day is coming … Valentine’s Day is coming. On the occasion of Valentine’s Day, I have an update of my post from last year, “SPENDING VALENTINE’S DAY ALONE (OR NOT) – I HAVE THOUGHTS & IDEAS*” (Feb. 2011, 2012).  Hence, my topic is love and the festivities on this special day. I want to address those in a couple and those that are not. My book of the week is still: “Love Story” by Erich Segal. (Editor’s Note: This is part of a continuing series on holidays & special dates plus that on relationships, romance, dating and marriage.)
  

ANTOINETTE’S LIFE & TIMES*

Childhood: At my home, Valentine’s Day was not celebrated.  My father did not buy gifts for my mother, although they had a good marriage. However, I do have fond memories from grade school, when I exchanged cards with my school friends.  I always hoped to get as many cards as possible.  As a youngster, I thought that this told me how popular I was and how many kids in my class liked me.  I also got cards from friends other than my class mates.

Marriage: We did not make a big deal on Valentine’s Day … just a few chocolates, cards and a telephone call or two.

Post marriage: Later when divorced and single, I had friends in a like situation, who were not bothered by Valentine’s Day. Truth -for me, it was hard- this was a significant day, which I tried to ignore.It reminded me that I was no longer a part of a couple. Everywhere I went that day, I noticed how many people were coupled up. I dealt with this by planning to go, along with my girl friends, to a singles’ event.  And on the day, I enjoyed myself – in the end, the day was entertaining and fun.

Now-a-days: At present, with my significant other, Valentine’s Day is not easy due to our busy schedules. It’s not what we do that is important: we could go out for a dinner for two or enjoy a quiet supper at home. Nevertheless, it is important that we take pause and make time for each other – it’s that important. The gifts, cards and dinner are not the key – instead, it’s quite simple really, it’s that there is mutual respect and we are ‘in like’. Of course, “love is all around” and we are together. We even smile at each other.

Blog Post Notes*:

With Valentine’s Day just around the corner. I wanted to remind you of some past pots as part of a continuing series on dating and relationships. Check out:  )  

• “FLIRTING TIPS 101 FOR GIRLS & BOYS,   WOMEN & MEN:  I say have fun, but be careful!* The mating dance is complex and difficult to perform successfully. One of the needed skill sets is the fine art of flirting.
• BEYOND ONLINE, THERE IS ALSO A BLIND DATE: I consider the idea, success rate,tips, stories, etc.*(Cont’d)”

Update 

2012: In 2012, I lived real life, some stuff good …  some bad. But love was still a big part of my everyday. 

Feb. 2013: Coupled or not, Valentine’s Day is the day one should express one’s affection to loved ones.  This year my grandchildren along with my family are my focus. Of course, I will also celebrate the day with my significant other.  We were invited to a Valentine’s Day dance and I’m looking forward to it.

ROMANCE PREVIEW ALERT!!!!!! To get you into the mood, I have two recipes especially for Valentine’s Day: Tomorrow, Tuesday, February 12^th2013, I will upload a post on the drrrrry Martini; and then on Wednesday, February 13^th 2013, I will present a post about chocolate fondue. Now, isn’t that just on time? Stay tuned … these posts are coming your way in this space. (Editor’s Note: This is part of a continuing series on Antoinette`s Kitchen.)

 THE AUTHOR: Erich Wolf Segal
Erich Wolf Segal, born in Brooklyn N.Y., was an author, screenwriter and Ivy League university professor. His star crossed with the Beatles as he wrote the screenplay of the 1968 motion picture, “Yellow Submarine”. His fame skyrocketed with the novel, “Love Story”. It was a best-seller and the movie of the same name was a huge hit – it was the number one box office attraction of 1970. Segal authored other books. He suffered from Parkinson’s disease and died in 2010 from a heart attack.  He was not known as a master of fluff. Instead, he was recognized as a very intense person whose perseverance was remarkable. (Fact source: Wikipedia the free encyclopedia)
 
SERIES/COLLECTION
Books
Several of his books are:
• [1970], Love Story, Oxford bookworms, Oxford University Press, OCLC 271780786
• (1977), Oliver’s Story, Granada, ISBN 9780246110077
• (1985), The Class, Bantam, ISBN 9780593010044
• (1988), Doctors, Toronto, ISBN 9780553052947
Movies
Several movies based upon Segal’s books were:
• Yellow Submarine (1968)
• Love Story (1970) – Ali McGraw and Ryan O’Neal starred as the lovebirds. Ray Milland was the father. It was the No. 1 movie of 1970. Tears flowed non-stop.
• Oliver’s Story (1978)
 
BOOK: “Love Story” by Erich Segal
This was a romantic yarn, borderline soap opera. Yet it worked and struck a chord with baby boomers. Indeed, it became the classic of a generation. Of course, boy meets girl, but there was more, much more.  Oliver Barrett IV was a rich kid from a family of blue blood lawyers who became enthralled with a young woman, a mere commoner type. But this lady was smart, spunky and she spoke her mind. Harvard was the place. The boy played rough and tough hockey and studied hard at law school. The girl looked great, had style and was a true lady. “Preppy” was a phrase used often. His parents objected- read – a demanding and over bearing father thought his son could do better. The young man was a real man and stood up for his beloved.  They married. He became estranged from his father/parents. The couple was happy. But life got in the way! From this book came one of the great lines of the century: “Love means never having to say you’re sorry!” It sold over 21 million copies in 33 languages. I liked it. I think that it is a candidate meriting to be discovered by generation Y and beyond.
 
CONCLUSION
A person is better off having love in his or her life. Valentine’s Day is the day to celebrate this love.

My Personal Comments
I say:

• That most people think that Valentine’s Day is about the love between a man and a woman. My take is different. Let me be clear. I think Valentine’s Day is a celebration of all love.
  • First, it’s a celebration of the love between a person and his or her parents, siblings, children, grandchildren, etc. If you are able to love – it means that you can feel. Indeed you are blessed and have a gift. If you are the recipient of love – it gives you a feeling of belonging, being part of a family. Indeed, you are blessed and have a gift.
  • Second, it’s a celebration of the love between a person and his or her significant other. If you are able to love – it means that you have passion and are alive. Indeed, you are blessed and have a gift. If you are the recipient of love – It makes you feel loved and complete. Indeed, you are blessed and have a gift.
  • Third, there is another love – the love of pets. While I have an allergy and do not have a pet, I have friends who love their pets. I think that this is great as well. If you have a pet that lovingly wags a tail when you come home, you are blessed and have a gift. If you lovingly pat your pet, when you come home, you are blessed and have a gift.
• That Feb. 14^th is highly commercialized for financial purposes.  This day is very lucrative for restaurants, florists, chocolates-candy shops and card stores. It could be considered as one of their prime money-making days of the year. Indeed, billions of dollars are spent for gifts on this day.
•  That it’s important to have love in your life because it makes you flourish. I heard about infant studies:
  • a baby that is loved, but barely fed, appears to  grow up happy and healthy; while
  • a baby that is well-fed, but not loved, seems to show signs of growing up unhealthy – he or she may even die.
• That if you have love and romance in your relationship, while I don’t believe that you must have a special day, I do think that it can hurt to have day to remind you to take pause and say “I love you!

The Point
When it comes to love, I say that it is all about a glass of water, 1/2 full and 1/2 empty. Celebrating this day does not require that you now have a man (or woman) in your life. If you are lucky to love and have love, then see the glass 1/2 full and appreciate what you do have. If you want more, then go out and find it! Make your very own “Love Story” – you can do it. There is someone out there perfect for everyone.

ANTOINETTE’S TIP SHEET*
Everyone should:
General
1. Make love a part of your life;
2. Recognize the TRUE love that you DO have in your life;
3. Acknowledge your loved ones;
4. Celebrate Valentine’s day – it is a feel good thing to do; If with a living parent,
4.1 Show you care by taking a moment to:
4.1.1 Send a greeting card;
4.1.2 Make a phone call on the day of, saying: ” I love you”; a simple kindness is worth so much!
5. Buy him or her a bag of doughnuts, hot buns, bagels or whatever, if in the same city; giving such is an excuse to go and say you that you appreciate him or her being part of your life!
If with adult children,  
6. Invite them for a homemade dinner with all of their favorite dishes;
7. Buy a card – saying that you love a child, even one all grown up, and you are so proud of him or her – saying so NEVER goes out of style!  If with a good friend,
8. Buy a little something which suits him or her; thoughtfulness combined with knowledge of the individual plus effort sends a powerful message to your friend: that you are a great friend;
9. Send him or her the name of this post at www.saveandread.com/blog with the phrase, “I appreciate our friendship” – Now that’s something different and an attention getter!   
If in a romantic relationship
10.Recognize:
10.1 That the fast pace of daily life makes it difficult for people to nurture a relationship;
10.2 That Valentine’s Day is the moment when a couple should stop and smell the coffee;
10.3 That your efforts to make this a special day for you and your significant other could make a difference in the quality and future success of the relationship;
11. Stop and send the following text message: “I love you!”
12. Make a date -it doesn’t have to be expensive; take advantage of the opportunity to have fun with your better half and enjoy his or her company!
13. Pay attention to a mate, to his or her likes and desires – this will move him or her!
14. Buy something special … as a token of love – it could be a greeting card, flowers (or a single rose) or something personal, (e.g., jewelry, fragrance, clothing, etc.);  
15. Make your very best dish with a bottle of wine or bake a dessert that says he or she has been really good!
16. Rekindle the romance in the relationship if that is needed;
If single,
15. Recognize the value of friendship;
16. Pick up a phone or send a text to a friend (platonic) and say: “Hi, let’s have a coffee or do something on Valentine’s day weekend.”
17. Go with your friends to a singles’ event;
18. Have a blast whatever you do!

Oh boy, look at the time. I have so much to do in preparation for Valentine’s Day. Gotta go …Love ya!*

Take it out for a spin and tell me if you agree.
And that’s my thought of the week on books, what’s yours?*
ALP

P.S. Wowee …Wowee Shop Valente is finally open; and my new line of Antoinerte La Posta* brand of clothing is now available. There is still much more to come to the Save and Read* web site. Watch for it!

P.P.S. #1 I have a TWITTER page. Consider becoming a follower? Visit www.twitter.com –   saveandread
P.P.S. #2 I also have a FACEBOOK page. Consider becoming a friend? Visit: www.facebook.com – Alp Save Andread – please check it out.
P.P.S. #3 I am on Linkedin. Consider becoming a connection? Visit  www.linkedin.com – Antoinette La Posta
 

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NEED SOMETHING FURTHER? TRY SAVE AND READ* (S&R*) .

ONE – “I SHOULD HAVE TOLD THAT STORY/I SHIOULD HAVE SAID THAT!*”

-ANECDOTES

S & R* CHOICE ANECDOTE* #1: Bit Brazen?
“The Los Angeles Times once published a Valentine’s Day story on several prominent couples, among them Arnold Schwarzenegger and his lovely wife, Maria Shriver. According to the story, on the very day the couple met, Schwarzenegger told Maria’s mother: “Your daughter has a great body.” Los Angeles Times media critic David Shaw – thinking the comment ‘a bit brazen, even for Schwarzenegger’ -later asked the actor whether he had actually said it. “No,” Schwarzenegger replied. “I said, ‘Your daughter has a nice ass!’”(Source: Anecdotage) – www.anecdotage.com) -http://www.anecdotage.com/index.php?aid=5862 

S & R* CHOICE ANECDOTE* #2: Happy Valentine’s Day
“In February 2003, Kelly Osbourne’s boyfriend Bert made a surprising announcement during his band’s Valentine’s Day concert. “Happy Valentine’s Day,” he said. “I love you and you’re my favorite person in the world – but we’re breaking up.”
(Source: Anecdotage) –  www.anecdotage.com) – http://www.anecdotage.com/index.php?aid=16288
S & R* CHOICE ANECDOTE* #3: “I sent flowers today”
“I sent flowers today,” Dana Carvey announced on Valentine’s Day, 2005. “I got this Lebanese florist. He says, ‘What do you want to say on the card?’ ‘Okay, darling sweeetheart -’ ‘Darling sweeetheart – What else? What else? What else? What else?’ ‘I love you so much your mere touch excites me.’ ‘Mere touch excites me. What else? What else? What else? What else?’ And the finally, he says, ‘I have a suggestion: Why don’t you say, “If you ever leave me I will hunt you down and kill you and your lover.” They love the passion.’”(Source: Anecdotage) – www.anecdotage.com) – http://www.anecdotage.com/index.php?aid=21167

– QUOTES
S & R* QUOTE #1:  Amy Bloom
“All intimacy is rare — that’s what makes it precious. And it involves the revelation of one’s self and the loving gaze upon another’s true self (no makeup, no fancy car, no defensive charm, no seduction) — that’s what makes it so damn hard. Intimacy requires honesty and kindness in almost equal measure (a little more kindness, I think), trust and trustworthiness, forgiveness and the capacity to be forgiven . . . It’s more than worth it — just don’t let them tell you it’s bilss.” (Source: Wisdom Quotes) – http://www.wisdomquotes.com/topics/love/)

S & R* QUOTE #2: Eleanor Roosevelt
“The giving of love is an education in itself.” (Source: Wisdom Quotes) –  http://www.wisdomquotes.com/topics/love/

S & R* QUOTE #3: Elizabeth Kubler-Ross
“The ultimate lesson all of us have to learn is unconditional love, which includes not only others but ourselves as well.(Source:  Wisdom Quotes) – http://www.wisdomquotes.com/topics/love/index2.html)
 
TWO – “IT WORDS FOR ME!*”
 For today, my word/phrase(s) are:  Saint Valentine’s Day; etc.

Saint Valentine’s Day
“Saint Valentine’s Day, commonly shortened to Valentine’s Day,[1][2][3] is an annual commemoration held on February 14 celebrating love and affection between intimate companions.[1][3] The day is named after one or more early Christian martyrs named Valentine and was established by Pope Gelasius I in 500 AD. It was deleted from the Roman calendar of saints in 1969 by Pope Paul VI, but its religious observance is still permitted. It is traditionally a day on which lovers express their love for each other by presenting flowers, offering confectionery, and sending greeting cards (known as “valentines”). The day first became associated with romantic love in the circle of Geoffrey Chaucer in the High Middle Ages, when the tradition of courtly love flourished. Modern Valentine’s Day symbols include the heart-shaped outline, doves, and the figure of the winged Cupid. Since the 19th century, handwritten valentines have given way to mass-produced greeting cards.[4]” (Source: Wikipedia the free encyclopedia).- http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Valentine’s_Day

Bonus fact #1: St. Valentines Day – Historical facts
“Numerous early Christian martyrs were named Valentine.[5] The Valentines honored on February 14 are Valentine of Rome (Valentinus presb. m. Romae) and Valentine of Terni (Valentinus ep. Interamnensis m. Romae).[6] Valentine of Rome[7] was a priest in Rome who was martyred about AD 269 and was buried on the Via Flaminia. His relics are at the Church of Saint Praxed in Rome,[8] and at Whitefriar Street Carmelite Church in Dublin, Ireland.Valentine of Terni[9] became bishop of Interamna (modern Terni) about AD 197 and is said to have been martyred during the persecution under Emperor Aurelian. He is also buried on the Via Flaminia, but in a different location than Valentine of Rome. His relics are at the Basilica of Saint Valentine in Terni (Basilica di San Valentino).[10]The Catholic Encyclopedia also speaks of a third saint named Valentine who was mentioned in early martyrologies under date of February 14. He was martyred in Africa with a number of companions, but nothing more is known about him.[11]No romantic elements are present in the original early medieval biographies of either of these martyrs. By the time a Saint Valentine became linked to romance in the 14th century, distinctions between Valentine of Rome and Valentine of Terni were utterly lost.[12]In the 1969 revision of the Roman Catholic Calendar of Saints, the feastday of Saint Valentine on February 14 was removed from the General Roman Calendar and relegated to particular (local or even national) calendars for the following reason: “Though the memorial of Saint Valentine is ancient, it is left to particular calendars, since, apart from his name, nothing is known of Saint Valentine except that he was buried on the Via Flaminia on February 14.”[13] The feast day is still celebrated in Balzan (Malta) where relics of the saint are claimed to be found, and also throughout the world by Traditionalist Catholics who follow the older, pre-Second Vatican Council calendar.”(Source: Wikipedia the free encyclopedia) – http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Valentine’s_Day

Bonus fact #1-A: St. Valentines Day – Romantic legends
“Saint Valentine of Terni and his disciples. The Early Medieval acta of either Saint Valentine were expounded briefly in Legenda Aurea.[14] According to that version, St Valentine was persecuted as a Christian and interrogated by Roman Emperor Claudius II in person. Claudius was impressed by Valentine and had a discussion with him, attempting to get him to convert to Roman paganism in order to save his life. Valentine refused and tried to convert Claudius to Christianity instead. Because of this, he was executed. Before his execution, he is reported to have performed a miracle by healing the blind daughter of his jailer. Since Legenda Aurea still provided no connections whatsoever with sentimental love, appropriate lore has been embroidered in modern times to portray Valentine as a priest who refused an unattested law attributed to Roman Emperor Claudius II, allegedly ordering that young men remain single. The Emperor supposedly did this to grow his army, believing that married men did not make for good soldiers. The priest Valentine, however, secretly performed marriage ceremonies for young men. When Claudius found out about this, he had Valentine arrested and thrown in jail. There is an additional modern embellishment to The Golden Legend, provided by American Greetings to History.com, and widely repeated despite having no historical basis whatsoever. On the evening before Valentine was to be executed, he would have written the first “valentine” card himself, addressed to a young girl variously identified as his beloved,[15] as the jailer’s daughter whom he had befriended and healed,[16] or both. It was a note that read “From your Valentine.”[15]” (Source: Wikipedia the free encyclopedia) – http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Valentine’s_Day

Bonus fact #2: Saint Valentine’s Day massacre
“The Saint Valentine’s Day massacre is the name given to the murder of seven people as part of a prohibition era conflict between two powerful criminal gangs in Chicago, in 1929: the South Side Italian gang led by Al Capone and the North Side Irish gang led by Bugs Moran. Former members of the Egan’s Rats gang were also suspected to have played a large role in the St. Valentine’s Day massacre, assisting Capone. Capone might have ordered it after Bugs’ gang machine-gunned Al Capone’s headquarters.”(Source: Wikipedia the free encyclopedia) http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Saint_Valentine’s_Day_massacre
 

THREE– STUDY/STATISTICS: Candy is Dandy
“1,233 – Number of locations producing chocolate and cocoa products in 2007. These establishments employed 38,794 people. California led the nation in the number of such establishments with 143, followed by Pennsylvania with 115.
Source: County Business Patterns <http://censtats.census.gov/cgi-bin/cbpnaic/cbpdetl.pl>
23.8 pounds – Per capita consumption of candy by Americans in 2008.”
Source: Current Industrial Reports  <http://www.census.gov/manufacturing/cir/historical_data/ma311d/>
Flowers
“- $403 million – The combined wholesale value of domestically produced cut flowers in 2008 for all flower-producing operations with $100,000 or more in sales. Among states, California was the leading producer, alone accounting for about three-quarters of this amount ($314 million).
– 24 million – The combined wholesale value of domestically produced cut roses in 2008 for all operations with $100,000 or more in sales.”
Source: USDA National Agricultural Statistics Service <http://usda.mannlib.cornell.edu/MannUsda/viewDocumentInfo.do?documentID=1072>
Jewelry
“27,484 –
Number of jewelry stores in the United States in 2007. Jewelry stores offer engagement, wedding and other rings to lovers of all ages. In February 2009, these stores sold $2.2 billion in merchandise.”
Source: County Business Patterns <http://censtats.census.gov/cgi-bin/cbpnaic/cbpdetl.pl> and Monthly Retail Trade and Food Services
<http://www.census.gov/retail>
Be mine
“2.16 million
The number of marriages that took place in the United States in 2008. That breaks down to a little less than 6,000 a day.”
(Source: National Center for Health Statistics) http://www.cdc.gov/nchs/products/nvsr.htm>
Giving Love a Second Chance
“3 1/2  – The median time in years between divorce and a second marriage.
52%, 44% – Among adults 25 and older who have ever divorced, the percentage of men and women, respectively, who were currently married.”
(Source for the data in this section, unless otherwise noted: Marriage and Divorce: 2004)
<http://www.census.gov/newsroom/releases/archives/marital_status_living_arrangements/cb07-131.html>
(Source: U.S. Census Bureau) – http://www.census.gov/newsroom/releases/archives/facts_for_features_special_editions/cb10-ff02.html

FOUR – BONUS ARTICLES

S & R* NEWS ALERT* #1:  Valentine’s Day 2010 – Feb. 14
“Opinions abound as to who was the original Valentine, with the most popular theory that he was a clergyman who was executed for secretly marrying couples in ancient Rome in spite of Emperor Claudius II, who felt that marriage weakened his soldiers. In any event, in A.D. 496, Pope Gelasius I declared Feb. 14 as Valentine Day. Through the centuries, the Christian holiday became a time to exchange love messages, and St. Valentine became the patron saint of lovers. Esther Howland, a native of Massachusetts, is given credit for selling the first mass-produced valentine cards in the 1840s. The spirit of love continues today as valentines are sent with sentimental verses, from and to young and old romantics.” (Source: U.S. Census Bureau) – http://www.census.gov/newsroom/releases/archives/facts_for_features_special_editions/cb10-ff02.html

S & R* NEWS ALERT* #2: Trends
(NC)”Looking to make an impact this year with your loved one on Valentine’s Day? The latest consumer trend is to avoid the traditional and stale options of chocolates and flowers for women and shirts and ties for men and choose smart gifts that you know your better half will enjoy. A new gift concept called Smartbox takes the guessing out of gift giving and offers you a chance to give fun, thoughtful gifts that will leave your loved ones impressed on any occasion. When you offer a gift to someone you love, you want to make sure they’ll actually enjoy it, because we all know the feeling of receiving a gift that just wasn’t ‘us’. Smartbox is the perfect solution to ensure your loved one will light up every time, said David Meyers, CEO of Smartbox. A new and simple gift concept, Smartbox enables that special someone to choose their own gift experience so gift givers are certain to delight every time. Choose from the 9 different themes, such as restaurants, spas, gateways, adventures or exploration, each with hundreds of options, Smartbox is the perfect personalised gift and allows people to discover new and exciting experiences they would never have found on their own. The concept is simple: choose a theme, buy the related Smartbox, and give it as a gift (or use it yourself!). A glossy illustrated guidebook is included in the package to let the recipient choose from up to 900 different experiences, activities and escapes. They then reserve a date and time to redeem their gift experience directly with the supplier using the contact information included in the guidebook. Gift recipients need only bring their Smartbox gift certificate with them on the day of their reservation to redeem it. The value of the gift is never revealed to the recipient so they will have no idea how much you paid. All packages are all inclusive except for travel expenses. The man in your life likes adventure? Now, you can offer him an original and fulfilling experience by letting him choose between surfing, kayaking, paintball, sailing, paramotor tandem and many other options. Your wife who has everything enjoys great food? You can now offer her a gourmet dining experience in a restaurant that suits her tastes. Smartbox themes include restaurants, spas, gateways, adventures and exploration. Smartbox is available at more than 450 retail locations including Zellers, Jean Coutu and Home Outfitters (Déco Découverte) in Quebec, Ontario, Alberta and British Columbia and online at www.smartbox.com/ca.  ”
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Vol. 3, No.43, Monday, February 4th, 2013

TITLE: “HOW TO BE SINGLE AND HAPPY? and looking for love?, I have some answers!*”

INTRODUCTION

Feb. 14^th is just around the corner. Of course, that’s Valentine`s Day. But there is another day also approaching – this is Single Awareness Day (S.A.D). It’s much less known – I was not aware of it.  I presume that many of you out there in Internetland also don’t know much about it. It’s the day set aside for all singles who will not be celebrating Valentine’s Day.  Therefore, today’s topic is being happy and learning to enjoy singlehood. My book of the week, “Being Single in a Couple’s World: How to be Happily Single While Looking for Love” by Xavier Amador Ph.D. and Judith Kiersky (Apr 20 1999).  (Editor’s Note: This is another in the continuing series on dating, relationships and marriage (as well as on special dates and holidays)). 

ANTOINETTE’S LIFE & TIMES*

After 27 years of marriage, I found myself divorced and single again.  Let me tell you, it was a different world for me. I saw many people who were coupled; but I also recognized that many couples with whom I used to socialize, now no longer wanted me around. I looked for events especially for singles. I joined a singles’ association. At their dances and outings, I met and socialized with women my age, either divorced or single. We had a lot in common and we were a support group for each other. Although we now have gone our separate ways, we still keep in touch. During my single days, although I wanted to meet someone compatible, I was happy doing the singles’ scene. 

During my unattached time, I usually attended the singles’ dance on the Saturday night closest to Feb. 14^th. In addition, I celebrated with loved ones – I bought chocolates for those I care about.  I also spent time with my friends. Other than that, I never made a big deal of this day, preferring to keep it to a minimum.

On Valentine’s Day, regardless of the emphasis put on being a couple, I knew that there were many of us who were single. At the time, I didn’t know about Single Awareness Day (S.A.D.).

THE AUTHOR: Xavier Amador Ph.D.

Dr. Xavier Amador has a Ph.D. He is a professor at Columbia University Teachers College in New York City.  He is the Founder and Director of the LEAP Institute. He was a professor in the Department of Psychiatry at Columbia University, College of Physicians & Surgeons; and the Director of Psychology at the New York State Psychiatric Institute. He has also been a consultant to many companies and government agencies including the National Institute of Health. He sits on the Board of Directors of the National Alliance for the Mentally Ill (NAMI) – he is the Director of Research at NAMI.

With over 25 years of experience, Dr. Amador is a clinical psychologist, working with adults, families, and couples. He is also a writer with eight books to his credit, including “I’m Not Sick, I don’t Need Help!” He is a world-wide recognized speaker.

He has appeared on the NBC’s The Today Show. He has also been a guest on ABC: Good Morning America (GMA), Prime Time Live, ABC’s World News Tonight;  CBS: CBS, This Morning, 60 Minutes; NBC: NBC Nightly News, Dateline; CNN; Fox News; In adition, he has been written up in the New York Times, Wall Street Journal, USA Today, etc.

SERIES/COLLECTION

Books/Articles

Several of his books are:

• Being Single in a Couple’s World: How to be Happily Single While Looking for Love” by Amador Xavier Ph.D. and Judith Kiersky (Apr 20 1999). 
• When Someone You Love is Depressed by Laura Rosen and Amador Xavier Ph.D. (Sept. 18 1997)
• I Am Not Sick I Don’t Need Help! by Amador Xavier and Anna-Lica, Ph.D. Johanson (Jun 2000)

Amador has published over 100 peer-reviewed scientific papers, and many other publications that have been translated into more than 20 languages.

THE BOOK: Being Single in a Couple’s World: How to be Happily Single While Looking for Love by Xavier Amador  Ph.D. and Judith Kiersky (Apr 20 1999)

Some people, maybe not you, have trouble with being single, unattached. That’s why, Xavier Amador Ph.D. (and Judith Kiersky) wrote the book about this marital status. They did the research and found five common obstacles that hinder a person from enjoying singlehood. To overcome these hindrances, they came up with a four-step plan. The first is the recognition that singleness is not one cookie cutter one size fitting all. Instead, it’s what you make it. There are numerous examples and also suggestions. Whether marriage is for you or not … or you say a mate is somewhere in your future or not … this book can help you understand more about being single; and this, in turn, could help you with any negativity that you might feel. A positive attitude is key in every part of life.

CONCLUSION

Single, never been married or married but divorced can be lonely. Some singles, maybe not you, are unhappy.

Personal Comments

I say:

• Every individual starts their life as a child having little friends. In our teens, we might experience puppy love. As young adults, we pursue romantic love. Like anything else, don’t give up. Making an effort to socialize is necessary. Persistence is the key. But, while on your quest, enjoy the journey.
• Life without romance does not mean life without love. Your parents, siblings, children love you and you love your family. You have friends and they chose you. You are blessed. Be thankful for what you have. If you want more, go for it!  
• That on Valentine’s Day.  There’s a lot of pressure by retailers for us to spend money and buy chocolates, candies, flowers, cards, etc. Singles have a reason not to give in to the commercialism.
• That singles can feel included by observing the day after, Single Awareness Day (S.A.D.), a day especially for singles. This is a day when singles can celebrate as well. 
• That you’re fine and you will be fine!

The Point

It is said that love given and received and also companionship shared contributes to happiness.

If you’re alive, you’re blessed. If you want more in your life, don’t be sad; instead, build a fuller life, based upon your interests and desires. If you want romance, love yourself and be happy and get out into the world amongst single men. I think that love will then find you. And by the way, on Valentine’s Day and also Single Awareness Day, why not celebrate, (yes, I said celebrate) with those people you love and appreciate.

ANTOINETTE’S TIP SHEET*

Everyone should:

1. Arrange an evening of dinner and dancing with your girlfriends
2. Participate in a single’s event
3. Give a party for your friends
4. Go bar hopping
5. Make a day of it; more particularly, 
   1. Arrange a day at a spa with your girlfriend
   2. Go shopping
   3. Spend time with your loved ones – grandparents, parents, siblings, nieces, nephews, etc.
6.  Make it a special day – no matter what your status is.

For singles out there, who dislike Valentine’s Day, reclaim the day in the name of Singles Awareness Day.

And that’s my thought of the week on books, what’s yours?*
Take it out for a spin and tell me if you agree.
ALP
“Books are life; and they make life better!*”

PREVIEW

P.S. Wowee …Wowee Shop Valente is finally open; and my new line of Antoinerte La Posta* brand of clothing is now available. There is still much more to come to the Save and Read* web site. Watch for it!

 P.P.S. #1 I have a TWITTER page. Consider becoming a follower? Visit www.twitter.com –   saveandread
P.P.S. #2 I also have a FACEBOOK page. Consider becoming a friend? Visit: www.facebook.com – Alp Save Andread – please check it out.
P.P.S. #3 I am on Linkedin. Consider becoming a connection? Visit  www.linkedin.com – Antoinette La Posta

CREDITS

-Web Tech:  richmediasound.com

The above is a new media production of Valente under its “United Author*” program.
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NEED SOMETHING FURTHER? TRY SAVE AND READ* (S&R*) .

ONE – “I SHOULD HAVE SAID THAT!*” – QUOTES
S & R* QUOTE #1: Benjamin Franklin

“Honesty is the best policy.” (Source: Wisdom Quotes) –  http://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/topics/topic_wisdom.html)

S & R* QUOTE #2: Henry Ford

“Obstacles are those frightful things you see when you take your eyes off your goal.” (Source: WisdomQuotes) –  http://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/topics/topic_wisdom2.html

S & R* QUOTE #3: Albert Einstein

“Reality is merely an illusion, albeit a very persistent one.” (Source: Wisdom Quotes)  –  http://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/topics/topic_wisdom2.html)

TWO – “IT WORDS FOR ME!*”

For today, my word/phrase(s) are: “Single Awareness Day”;

Single Awareness Day

“Singles Awareness (or Appreciation) Day” (S.A.D.) is a humorous holiday, celebrated on February 15 (although some prefer the 13th or the 14th to get away from the commercialism associated with the 14th^{[citation needed]}). It serves as an alternative to Valentine’s Day for people who are single, that is, not involved in a romantic relationship.” (Source: Wikipedia the free encyclopedia) – http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Singles_Awareness_Day

THREE– STUDY/STATISTICS:

“On Singles Awareness Day, single people gather to celebrate or to commiserate in their single status. Some want to remind romantic couples that they don’t need to be in a relationship to celebrate life.^{[citation needed]}

Common activities during Singles Awareness Day include, single events, traveling, volunteering, treating oneself to popular activities, gathering of family and friends, and gift giving for oneself.

On this day many people wear green, as it is considered to be the ‘opposite’ of red.^{[citation needed]} Another popular option is an absence of color (black), to symbolize an absence of celebration.” (Source: Wikipedia the free encyclopedia) – http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Singles_Awareness_Day)

FOUR – BONUS ARTICLES

S & R*NEWS ALERT*#1: Tips for singles on Valentine’s Day

“Valentine’s Day can conjure up feelings of loneliness for those without a mate. But being alone is cheaper, easier, and probably better than going out on some random date, or being with a person you’ve been meaning to break up with for months. If you don’t have a date, don’t stay at home and pout. Here are some ideas to help you celebrate the day of love:

1. Realize that Valentine’s Day is a commercial holiday. It is not about love and relationships; it is about selling flowers, candy, and diamond jewelry. Think of all the money you are saving.

2. Plan well in advance to do something that will not place you in the path of cooing couples. Even if you usually like dining out alone, do something else on Valentine’s Day.

3. Resist the temptation to turn off your phone and crawl into bed early. Book a deep tissue massage at a fantastic spa, followed by a manicure and pedicure. Host a fondue party or a potluck at your house, or grab a few single friends and book a sightseeing flight over your city.

4. Do you know a couple with children who never go out because they just don’t feel they can afford a babysitter? Offer them a free night of babysitting and let them enjoy a romantic night out.

5. Nothing spreads the love faster than doing a little volunteer work. Take time to remember your good fortune and learn about how you can help improve the lives of children living in poverty through a non-profit organization like Christian Children’s Fund of Canada (www.ccfcanada.ca).

6. If you are single, but would rather not be, think about what is standing in the way of you and a new relationship. Find ways to work on becoming the person your dream partner would fall in love with. Start therapy. Take up yoga. Take action to change the world. It is into the fullest lives that love is most likely to fall.” www.newscanada.com

S & R*NEWS ALERT*#2: Give roses as a symbol of love and peace

“Photo 1 credit: Paul Thompson; Photo 1 caption: Jenni Williams, a Zimbabwean human rights defender and leader of Women of Zimbabwe Arise, offers a rose to Alex Neve, Secretary General of Amnesty International Canada. Jenni was in Canada to speak about the critical human rights situation in Zimbabwe.

Photo 2 credit: Paul Thompson; Photo 2 caption: Zimbabwean human rights defender Jenni Williams inspired delegates at an Amnesty International meeting in Montreal.

This Valentine’s Day, courageous women in Zimbabwe will be handing out paper roses in the streets.

Jenni Williams, the leader of Women of Zimbabwe Arise (WOZA), has lost count of how many times she has been arrested maybe 37 or 38, she says. Jenni and her colleague, Magodonga Mahlangu, are only two of the many women who have been arrested, ill-treated, intimidated and harassed for their peaceful human rights work in this southern African country.

Members often give out paper roses during their peaceful marches to symbolize their slogan of love and peace. At a previous Valentine’s Day event in Bulawayo, banners proclaimed The Power of Love can conquer the Love of Power and women handed out roses to the public. Three of the 53 women arrested had simply been watching. At trial, the prosecutor decided against legal action, and the activists walked free after paying fines.

WOZA was formed in 2003 to defend human rights amidst the political violence in Zimbabwe, and continues their work today by mobilizing to improve living conditions in the country.

Members organize vocal and colourful peaceful demonstrations to protest government policies that lead to worsening social, economic and human rights situations. Police arrest even children, women carrying babies and pregnant women. Officers release many without charge, but take advantage of repressive legislation such as the Public Order and Security Act and the Miscellaneous Offences Act to charge some of them.

The government, in an effort to prevent public protest and criticism of its policies, has become increasingly intolerant of the work of human rights defenders and is actively seeking to silence them. WOZA members will continue by peaceful means to use their freedom to meet together and criticize government policy. Members of Amnesty International around the world are calling for the protection of WOZA members and all human rights defenders in Zimbabwe. Information on how to get involved is available at amnesty.ca/zimbabwe.” www.newscanada.com

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