“Anniversary: Dinner, cards, poems, rings, gifts, etc. – I have some ideas!*”

Vol. 4, No. 2, Monday, April 8th, 2013

TITLE:“Anniversary:  Dinner, cards, poems, rings, gifts, etc. – I have some ideas*”

INTRODUCTION

With the start of April 2013, I have reached another anniversary doing this blog, now starting my fourth year! Do you want to know a secret? I forgot this anniversary!!!! (I’m pleased that you could come since without you, my site wouldn’t be here.) That got me thinking about anniversaries in the sense of relationships and marriages.  Thus, my book of the week is “Anniversary” [Paperback] Richard W. Halperin (Author).  (Editor’s Note: This is another post in a continuing series on dating, relationships and marriage.)

ANTOINETTE’S LIFE & TIMES*

Parents: Some people say that if a man doesn’t know or remember his wedding anniversary date, he doesn’t care.  I do not agree.  My Dad never remembered or bought a gift for my mother, except for their 25th and 50th Wedding Anniversary.  But their marriage was a good one and they deeply loved and cared for each other.

Me, myself and I: In my case, I make arrangements for dinner on our anniversary and then inform him about it.  Now, if he doesn’t remember, isn’t that the best way to go?

Stuff happens department: You can’t always be impressed with a husband who remembers and plans a wedding anniversary. The husband of one of my friends organized a 25th wedding anniversary party with his mistress, who was also his wife’s friend. She later found out about the affair. Needless to say, they are divorced today.

S & R* Letter

Since we’re talking about anniversaries, I would like to share with you my 4th Anniversary writing this blog.  My devotion and perseverance in writing a weekly blog can be mainly attributed to my liking what I do.  Apparently success comes with perseverance.

Sincerely

Antoinette

THE AUTHOR: Richard W. Halperin (Author)

Richard Halperin is a poet, credited with 100 poems published in a variety of journals. Halperin graduated from City University of New York with a Ph.D. in English Literature.  Until 2005 he worked in Asia, Africa and Central and Eastern Europe as chief of teacher education for the United Nations Educational, Scientific and Cultural Organization.  He edited “Reading and Writing Poetry:  The Recommendations of Noted Poets from Many Lands on the Teaching of Poetry in Secondary School. The book, “Anniversary” is Mr. Halperin’s debut collection.

SERIES/COLLECTION

Books/Articles:

Anniversary” by Richard W. Halperin (Apr 5 2011)

 THE BOOK:  “Anniversary” [Paperback] Richard W. Halperin (Author)

The book, “Anniversary” is a series of love poems presented from husband to wife, between parent and child, the living and departed. It’s a great mix of beautiful words, warm sentiment and emotion. Couldn’t you use a little of that today? It will move you; and more importantly, your best half!

CONCLUSION

A birthday commemorates your birth. An anniversary commemorates the birth of the love and the relationship with your mate. 

Personal Comments

I say:

  • That wedding anniversaries are important – I usually remember this date; but I’m not alone as most women do so as well;
  • That this is in contrast to men – almost half of the men in a study did not know the date of their anniversary;
  • That wedding anniversaries along with birthdays, are the most celebrated events in the world;
  • That some people make the anniversary a party for family and friends.  As far as I am concerned, it should be a couple’s event except for the milestone anniversaries like the 25th &50th; etc.
  • That men and women are wired differently and when women accept this, we’ll understand men better;
  • That women are better listeners;
  • That women are emotional beings – apparently, we cry four times more than men. An anniversary has sentimental significance. This is why we are more likely to remember the day. You see, these things matter and touch us so much! 

The Point

In life, there are days that are happy and others that are not so much. An anniversary is a good day – take the time to make it special and enjoy it. It might even rekindle the spark, if gone fishing,  between a couple and this is really good!

ANTOINETTE’S TIP SHEET*

Here’s the recipe for a happy anniversary everyone should:  

  1. Recognize that an anniversary signifies a loving relationship enduring through the ups and downs, getting deeper – it also holds opportunities for tomorrow;
  2. Choose a card with nice words and images that express how much he or she means to you;
  3. Buy a gift for your significant other; but
  • Remember it’s not the price that counts; it’s the thought that really matters.
  • Put some thought in buying the gift.
  • Think of rings for two – they’re neat!

4. Write a love letter to your significant other;

5. Take the day off and spend it together;

6. Have a romantic dinner for two at a favorite restaurant;

7. Reminisce about the good times from the past year;

7. Make a toast, with a glass of wine, thanking your mate for all he or she does every single day;

8. Add a wink, coo, smile, eyelash flutter and kiss as needed;

10.  Enjoy the congratulations –you’ve earned it the hard way, you’ve worked, each day, at your relationship!

Happy anniversary. Hope you do good this year. I gotta go now – I need to make plans for my big day. 

And that’s my thought of the week on books, what’s yours?*
Take it out for a spin and tell me if you agree.
ALP
“Books are life; and they make life better!*”

PREVIEW (Tentatively scheduled for Monday, April 15th 2013): With the end of winter, I started shopping for new clothing for me and loved ones suitable for the nicer weather. I will share some of my thoughts and experiences. Spring forward with me next week.  (Editor’s Note: This is another post in a continuing series on general category – shopping.)

PREVIEW (Tentatively scheduled for Monday, April 22nd 2013): Earth Day is to cherish nature. It’s coming on April 22nd. What’s more important? Let’s mark the day together! (Editor’s Note: This is another post in a continuing series on special dates and holidays.)

P.S. Big News: There are big changes FINALLY coming to my blog – Please stay tuned.

P.P.S. #1 I have a TWITTER page. Consider becoming a follower? Visit www.twitter.com –   saveandread
P.P.S. #2 I also have a FACEBOOK page. Consider becoming a friend? Visit: www.facebook.com – Alp Save Andread – please check it out.
P.P.S. #3 I am on Linkedin. Consider becoming a connection? Visit  www.linkedin.com – Antoinette La Posta

CREDITS

-Web Tech:  richmediasound.com

The above is a new media production of Valente under its “United Author*” program.
*TM/© 2013 Practitioners’ Press Inc. – All Rights Reserved.
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NEED SOMETHING FURTHER? TRY SAVE AND READ* (S&R*).

ONE  – “IT WORDS FOR ME!*”
For today, my word/phrase(s) are: “anniversary”; wedding anniversary; etc.

“An anniversary is a day that commemorates or celebrates a past event that occurred on the same day of the year as the initial event.” (Source: Wikipedia the free encyclopedia) – http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Anniversary

“A wedding anniversary is the anniversary of the date a wedding took place. Traditional names exist for most of them: for instance, 50 years of marriage is called a “golden wedding anniversary” or simply a “golden anniversary”.(Source: Wikipedia the free encyclopedia) – http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Wedding_anniversary

TWO – STUDY/STATISTICS:

The historic origins of wedding anniversaries date back to the Holy Roman Empire, when husbands crowned their wives with a silver wreath on their twenty-fifth anniversary and a gold wreath on the fiftieth. Later, principally in the twentieth century, commercialism led to the addition of more anniversaries being represented by a named gift.[1]

The names of some anniversaries provide guidance for appropriate or traditional gifts for the spouses to give each other; if there is a party these can be brought by the guests or influence the theme or decoration. These gifts vary in different countries, but some years have well-established connections now common to most nations: 5th Wooden, 10th Tin, 15th Crystal, 20th China, 25th Silver, 30th Pearl, 40th Ruby, 50th Golden, 60th Diamond.

Traditional and modern anniversary gifts

Lists of wedding anniversary gifts vary by country. The traditional and modern U.S. versions were compiled by librarians at the Chicago Public Library.[9][10][11]

Year Traditional (U.S.)[12] Traditional (UK)[13] Modern (U.S.)[12]
1st Paper Cotton Clock
2nd Cotton Paper China
3rd Leather Crystal, glass
4th Linen, silk Fruit and flowers Appliances (electrical)
5th Wood Silverware
6th Iron Sugar Wood objects
7th Wool, copper Woollen Desk sets/pen and pencil sets
8th Bronze Salt Linens, lace
9th Pottery Copper Leather goods
10th Tin, Aluminum Tin Diamond jewelry
11th Steel   Fashion jewelry, accessories
12th Silk Silk and fine linen Pearls, colored gems
13th Lace   Textiles, furs
14th Ivory   Gold jewelry
15th Crystal Watches
16th     Silver holloware
17th     Furniture
18th     Porcelain
19th     Bronze
20th China Platinum
21st     Brass, Nickel
22nd     Copper
23rd     Silver plate
24th Opal   Musical instruments
25th Silver
30th Pearl Diamond
35th Coral, jade Coral Jade
40th Ruby
45th Sapphire   Sapphire
50th Gold
55th Emerald   Emerald
60th Diamond (yellow) Diamond
65th   Blue sapphire  
70th   Platinum[14][15][16]  
75th Diamond, gold   Diamond, gold
80th   Oak[17][18] Diamond, pearl
85th   Wine Wife’s birthstone

[edit] Flower gifts

Year Flower
1st Carnation
2nd Lily of the Valley
3rd Sunflower
4th Hydrangea
5th Daisy
6th Calla
7th Freesia
8th Lilac
9th Bird of paradise
10th Daffodil
11th Tulip
12th Peony
13th Chrysanthemum
14th Dahlia
15th Rose
20th Aster
25th Iris
28th Orchid
30th Lily
40th Gladiolus
50th Yellow rose, violet

(Source:  http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Wedding_anniversary)

THREE – BONUS ARTICLES

S & R*NEWS ALERT*#1: May brings attention to Swallowing Awareness Day

“Feeding and swallowing disorders affect infants, young children, adults and the elderly. Also known as dysphagia, it may affect those afflicted with Down syndrome, cleft lip and palate, prematurity, cerebral palsy, developmental delay, brain injury or stroke, say specialists in this field. Left untreated, feeding and swallowing disorders can lead to malnutrition, dehydration, pneumonia, delayed growth and development, social isolation or airway obstruction.

Wednesday, May 8, 2013 is Swallowing Awareness Day. If you or someone you know is suffering from a swallowing disorder, you can learn more or find a professional specializing in dysphagia near you by visiting www.speechandhearing.ca.” www.newscanada.com

S & R*NEWS ALERT*#2: 5 clever ways to improve a relationship

“No matter whether you’re dating now, or have been happily married for years, here are five simple ways to make that relationship even better, no matter where you are in your romantic journey:

Recognize what’s important to your partner. Taking time to do this can go a long way towards building goodwill and an atmosphere of compromise. On the flip side, it’s also important for your partner to recognize your wants and for you to state them clearly. Constantly giving to others at the expense of your own needs builds resentment and anger.

Keep outside relationships and interests alive. No one person can meet all of our needs, and expecting too much from someone can put a lot of unhealthy pressure on a relationship. Having friends and outside interests not only strengthens your social network, but brings new insights and stimulation to the relationship too.

Change it up. Act out of character you can easily get into ruts. If you find that you are repeating patterns, step back and break it up. Be somewhat unknown to each other. We are hardwired as humans to like mystery and be intrigued by it. There is an excitement that comes from anticipating and not knowing.

Find something you enjoy doing together. It can be a shared hobby, a dance class, a daily walk or volunteering. Doing service moves you out of yourself and your own problems and supports a broader, more spiritual view of life. Get involved with a local organization like Christian Children’s Fund of Canada (www.ccfcanada.ca) and help improve the lives of children and families living in poverty around the world.

Connect as a couple and rekindle love. Relationships need time to thrive. It is vitally important to set aside specific times to be together. Commit to spending quality time together on a regular basis. Even during very busy and stressful times, a few minutes of sharing and connecting can help keep bonds strong.

Relationships are an investment. The more you put in, the more you get back.” www.newscanada.com

*TM/© 2013 Practitioners’ Press Inc. – All Rights Reserved.

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