Vol. 1, No. 21, November 1st 2010
TITLE: “SORRY JACKIE COLLINS, I DON’T BELIEVE THAT ALL DIVORCED WOMEN ARE SLUTS!*” (DIVORCE: Part #2)
My book of the week is: “The World is Full of Divorced Women” by Jackie Collins. Hence my topic is Divorce.
“IT WORDS FOR ME!*”
For today, my word/phrase(s) is: “Divorce”.
Divorce
Divorce (or the dissolution of marriage) is the final termination of a marital union, cancelling the legal duties and responsibilities of marriage and dissolving the bonds of matrimony between the parties. In most countries divorce requires the sanction of a court or other authority in a legal process. The legal process for divorce may also involve issues of spousal support, child custody, child support, distribution of property and division of debt.
STUDY/STATISTICS
Unites States
In 2008, 46% of all marriages involve a remarriage for one or both spouses. It is estimated that 40% of all marriages have ended in divorce as of 2008.[16] On average, first marriages that end in divorce last about eight years.[17] Of the first marriages for women from 1955 to 1959, about 79 percent marked their 15th anniversary, compared with only 57 percent for women who married for the first time from 1985 to 1989.[17] The median time between divorce and a second marriage was about three and a half years.[17]
In 2009 the overall divorce rate was in decline in the U.S., but so was the marriage rate.[18] A 1995 study found a wide range of unassociated factors including frequency of sex, wealth, race, and religious commitment.[19] The latter finding is contradicted by a study[20] by the Barna Group,[21] which found that a higher divorce rate was associated with infrequent church attendance.
(Source: Wikipedia the free encyclopedia) – http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Divorce
S & R* NEWS ALERT* #1: Christina Aguilera files for divorce from Jordan Bateman, she has a prenup posted by Admin 14 Oct 2010.
S & R* NEWS ALERT* #2: Courteney Cox separated from David Arquette
(Courteney) Cox married David Arquette on June 12, 1999. On June 13, 2004, she gave birth to their first child, daughter Coco Riley Arquette. Jennifer Aniston is the baby’s godmother.[22] On October 11, 2010, it was announced that the actress and her husband had separated, though they still maintain a close friendship and business relationship.[23] Cox is a brown belt in karate.[24]
(Source: Wikipedia the free encyclopedia) – http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Courteney_Cox
Bonus fact #1
Courteney Cox is currently starring in the TV show, “Cougar Town”. She plays Jules Cobb, a 40- something woman who likes younger men.
MY LIFE & TIMES*
After 27 years of marriage, I found myself divorced. At first, it was hard to be single. Once I started to do the single scene, I met new people, I became more comfortable being on my own. Of course, I wanted to meet Mr. Right, but I was in no hurry. I met friends of friends: several women of my age and I started circulating with them. After going to the bars and night clubs, I soon realized that this was not my scene. A work colleague told me about an association for single people – mostly middle-aged. I became a member and started to attend their dance events regularly. Attendees were a diverse group of many real charaters. I met a great group of folks, both men and women. I also began socializing with them. Members gave house parties and I was invited. Over five years ago, I met Mr. Right at a dance held at the association. I don’t attend these dances anymore and regrettably now don’t see my single friends very often. However, I have many fond memories of my single life after my divorce; and my singles group made this possible for me.
THE AUTHOR: Jacqueline Jill “Jackie” Collins
Jacqueline Jill “Jackie” Collins was born in London on October 4th, 1937. She is an interesting mix: her parents were Elsa Bessant, Anglican and British and Joseph William Collins, South African and Jewish. Her father was a theatrical agent; and some of his clients were the Beatles and Tom Jones. Jackie’s sister is Joan Collins. Youngest in the family, Jackie was expelled from school at the age of 15 and soon started an affair with Marlon Brando, 29. Jackie began an acting career in the 1950s and 1960s. She wrote her first book, “The World Is Full of Married Men” and it was published in 1968. The book was considered: “nasty, filthy and disgusting” and was banned in Australia and South Africa, but sales spiked in USA and U.K. Collins married Wallace Austin in 1959 and had a daughter. Four and half years later they were divorced. She now lives in Beverly Hills. She describes how she lives her life, “like a cool bachelor. I have a man for all seasons.” (Fact source: Wikipedia the free encyclopedia)
SERIES/COLLECTION
Books
Her large body of work includes:
* The World Is Full Of Married Men (1968)
* The Stud (1969)
* Sinners (first published as Sunday Simmons & Charlie Brick) (1971)
* The Love Killers (first published as Lovehead) (1974)
* The World Is Full Of Divorced Women (1975)
* Lovers & Gamblers (1977)
* The Bitch (1979)
* Rock Star (1988)
* American Star (1993)
* Thrill (1998)
* Lovers & Players (2006)
* Married Lovers (2008)
* Poor Little Bitch Girl (2009 [UK] – 2010 [US])
* Hollywood Series
* Hollywood Wives (1983)
* Hollywood Husbands (1986)
* Hollywood Kids (1994)
* Hollywood Wives: The New Generation (2001)
* Hollywood Divorces (2003)
* The Santangelo Novels
* Main article: The Santangelo Novels
* Chances (1981)
* Lucky (1985)
* Lady Boss (1990)
* Vendetta: Lucky’s Revenge (1996)
* Dangerous Kiss (1999)
* Drop Dead Beautiful (2007)
* Goddess of Vengeance (coming in 2011)
* Madison Castelli Series
* L. A. Connections (serialised novel):
* Power (1998)
* Obsession (1998)
* Murder (1998)
* Revenge (1998)
* Lethal Seduction (2000)
* Deadly Embrace (2002)
Movies
Collins wrote the screenplay of her book, “The Stud”; her sister Joan was the star. Other books were made into TV movies: “Lady Boss”, “Yesterday’s Hero”, etc.
THE BOOK: “The World is Full of Divorced Women” by Jackie Collins
In this book, we have two naughty heroines who have the hots for having the hots. Writer Cleo James is married to Mike James. Cleo walks in on Mike having sex with her friend. Nude Model Muffin is big, if you know what I mean; and she has a boyfriend, Jon. The first line on the book’s back page states: “The world is their bedroom.” I say: “Jackie’s super- sexed duo are opposite from the women who believe that their dream house has no bedroom (and kitchen).” Cleo leaves Mike and has revenge sex; now unattached, she tries to rebuild a life. Mike wants to get back with Cleo, but seemingly is a sex addict. In this book, there is also a one night stand leading to a quickie marriage and an annulment try. And so it comes and goes.
Jackie Collins claims in her title that the world is full of divorced women. Surprisingly, that is pretty accurate. (See the above statistics section.) I deduce that Jackie believes this horde of divorcees are not merely party girls; instead they are hot mamas with a one track mind: All- Sex any time on demand: 24-7, morning, noon or night. They are on a mission to “bad men”; sorry I made a mistake, I meant to say: “bed men.”
If you have an urge to get down and dirty, reach for this book.
CONCLUSION
My personal comments
Sorry Jackie (Collins), I don’t believe that all divorced women are sluts!* I’m not and I am not alone. There are many of us out there in Internetland.
I know of what I speak….been there… done that. I was bought up a good girl and grew into a lady. When I was marrried, I was a lady. When I was divorced, I was still a lady. I had fun; but wild was not on my ‘to do’ list. I guess you can’t take the lady out of a lady.
The point
Divorce is not a license to become a mindless boozer/druggie floozie. Instead, divorce is the open door to enter the new life that merits the fine person that you are.
Here are a few of my Don’ts and Dos:
Don’t
1. Lose yourself after a divorce; I think that you are better than that!
2. Be surprised to find married friends taking their leave of you.
3. Fall into bitterness; it’s a deep hole leading to no where good.
4. Allow yourself to be a victim; remember when it gets tough, the tough gets going.
5. Jump into a relationship immediately; experts say that two years is the minimum to wait. (I agree – it is important not to choose someone who is not good for you; and it is essential to figure out the qualities and characteristics of the person who is good for you.)
Do
1. Recognize that there is a BIG silver lining in a divorce; it stops you from simply coasting – it gives you the opportunity to take control and remake your life. to this end,
(a) Volunteer – helping others will get you not to think inward too much.
(b) Take a course – this will broaden your horizon.
(c) Figure out what is the next big thing for you; and now knowing what you want, stay focused and go after it!
2. Love your kids, especially now; and make sure that you consider them first.
3. Love yourself, forgive your weaknesses and errors, dust yourself off and start again.
4. Renew your old home if staying put or find new digs – indeed, a fresh environment helps you along in your new start.
5. Ask yourself what you like to do; and allow yourself the luxury of doing it occasionally, but only when you have accomplished something on your way of rebuilding a life.
6. Join single groups and meet new people – remember you are not the only person to be divorced;
7. Attend single events not with the objective to connect with your next significant other; instead, your aim is to socialize and have a few laughs. Surprise surprise, you will find new friends.
8. Always behave in an appropriate manner at any event you attend.
9. Stay single for a while until you figure out what you want out of your life and who qualifies best in the desirable role as your new better half.
Personally, I think that you are worth it. Don’t you?
Take it out for a spin and tell me if you agree.
And that’s my thought of the week on books, what’s yours? *
ALP
“Books are life; and they make life better!*”
CREDIT
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